The Cycle of Abuse

The cycle of abuse.

It can be hard to determine if you are in an abusive relationship. I should have known from the very first signs, but I was blinded by young High School love. I hope you can avoid such a relationship early enough to get out easier.

Unfortunately, between victim blaming and how some behaviors have become the “norm” in society, we tend to think it’s normal.

It’s not.

Below is a Power and Control Wheel.

A few months ago I came across this wheel. The more I looked it over in detail, the more I found myself nodding to each and every word.

Are you in an abusive relationship? Know the red flags.



April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

April is Sexual Violence Awareness Month. Without awareness or taking action, nothing improves or changes.

One area specifically that needs more attention is sexual assault on college campuses because the schools try to hide and ignore reality to maintain their prestige reputation. Everyone deserves to feel safe to pursue their education.

Although this Media Kit is for Journalists, it’s a great resource that touches on each area of Sexual Violence



Resources for Preventing Sexual Violence on Campus


2015 Sexual Assault Awareness Month Campaign Brochure

This mailer is released in January in preparation for SAAM. It includes information and statistics on sexual violence on campus, a guide to SAAM products, and a tear out poster in English and Spanish (also available for download).

An overview on campus sexual violence prevention

This overview provides information on the prevention of sexual violencce on college and university campuses. Also available in Spanish.

What is healthy sexuality and consent?

This fact sheet discusses healthy sexuality and consent, which can help to support sexual violence prevention efforts. Also available in Spanish.

What is campus sexual violence?

This fact sheet provides an overview of sexual violence on college and university campuses. Also available in Spanish.

Action steps for health care professionals

This fact sheet provides action steps that health care professionals on college and university campuses can take to prevent sexual violence.

Action steps for faculty and staff

This fact sheet present action steps that faculty and staff on college and university campuses can take to prevent sexual violence.

Action steps for campus administrators

This fact sheet provides action steps for administrators on college and university campuses to help prevent sexual violence.

Understanding sexual violence: Tips for parents and caregivers

This fact sheet provides information about sexual violence prevention and how parents and caregivers can play a role in responding to victims and promoting prevention. Also available in Spanish.


If you have a loved one in college or about to head to college and want to make sure they have safety tools, please contact me to discuss the best options for them.

How will YOU take action?

What is Pepper Spray?

What is Pepper Spray?

HardcoreIt is simply cayenne pepper in spray form. Pepper spray typically comes in canisters, which are often small enough to be carried or concealed in a pocket or purse. Pepper spray’s active ingredient is oleoresin Capsicum (OC). Here in NC, our local Police carry 36% OC. Damsel in Defense pepper sprays are 18% OC. Continue reading “What is Pepper Spray?”